Hi Sophia, you've been my inspiration since I watched your first tutorial. I was overwhelmed by your dedication in pursuing your music dreams. Sometimes it is hard for me to hold on to my principle due to pressure from my family and teachers. Sometimes I need to fake myself just to make them feel better. But I know who I am and what I want, faking is just a part of life, I believe if you can get over it and become successful, I can, too. I just wanna say thank you for inspiring people like me.
Thank YOU for your support! Without people like you, I wouldn’t be where I am today (:
Look, I am no love-guru but whether good or bad; wrong or right, these are my thoughts and opinions.
A lot of people confuse the meaning of falling in love with love and falling in love with a person. Loving someone and being in love with someone is also confused by many.
The media, society, and people around us hype up the meaning of being in love too much that so many people are “in love” with their partners these days, even before knowing much about them. Falling in love with “love” is like falling in love with the spark, the feelings, the emotions. Most importantly, it is being over excited about the idea of falling in love, but not with the person you are in a relationship with. And sadly, not much reality is in it. It is only your imagination, thinking you’re in love with someone, when you’re really just in love with the idea of love.
Loving is simple. You can love anyone. I love my family, friends, life, etc. When you love someone, you start caring about them. You love them because they’re always there for you, or sometimes you learn to love them because they’re family.
Being in love with someone is different. You fall in love with everything about them - the good and the bad. You love every word and action made by them. You love everything they hate and love about themselves. You memorize every little thing about them even when you have a bad memory. You want them in your past, present, and future. They are someone you can share your life with. You believe that fate has destined you to be with them. They make you happier than you have ever been. You could see yourself going to the depths of the earth and pass through infinite obstacles with them and still be together. You know you’re perfect for each other. You know this is the best feeling ever. They complete you. You feel like the luckiest person in the world to be able to finally find the one.
To finish this off, I’ll say this: True love never has a happy ending. That is because true love doesn’t have an ending. A heart truly in love never loses hope but always believes in the promise of love, no matter how long the time, how big the problem, and how far the distance.
There’s someone who likes you, buuuuuut you don’t like them the same way and you don’t want to hurt them. OR you keep getting a facebook message, text, or call from someone that you don’t like, how they even got your number? I don’t know. But the fact is they just keep hitting you up. What do you do in a situation like that!?
Avoid eye contact/walk faster when you see them. Pretend you didn’t see them.
When they finally get your attention or just stop you out of nowhere even after avoiding eye contact and walking faster and start talking to you, what do you do? You give them vague, short, uninteresting answers.
If that still doesn’t bore them, start talking about other people and explaining how attractive they are. Even better, describe someone else that are the exact opposite of them. Maybe they’ll get the point then.
And if they STILL don’t get the point, and they ask if you want to hang, then tell them you got other plans or right now is not a good time.
And if they’re STILL consistent to the point that they’re asking you to be in a relationship with you. Say you’re not ready for a relationship.
If you’re in a relationship, and they’re trying to get you, tell them you’re in a relationship. Start describing your lover. Don’t stop talking about your lover till they get the point.
If you’re the person who’s hitting them up, STOP! You’re making yourself look bad! You’re putting so much effort in to get nothing back!? That’s not fair. You’re lowering your value. You know how much you’re worth, and you’re not worth 0 effort, when you’re giving so much of yours. Just drop them.
A lot of people have a situation where someone likes them, and they don’t like them back. How to tell them you don’t like them can get complicated sometimes. If you tell them the wrong way, it might suck tremendously. Let’s be honest, we don’t want to hurt our friends. Even if we don’t want to be with them, you don’t want to crush their hopes and dreams. A lot of us kinda just let that happen.
Always tell them that they’re like a sibling to them. I’m pretty sure they’ll know that you don’t want to get involved with them at all whatsoever because you wouldn’t want to get into a relationship with a sibling.
Use the word friend. “It’s amazing to have a friend like you, I would never want to compromise that.”
Tell them about other people, or always talk about how you have a crush on someone else. It might make them like you more.. but I guess it’s kind of hinting at them that you don’t want to be with them.
Tell them that they would make a really good boyfriend or girlfriend.. with someone else. Or tell them they would look cute with *insert name*. Just always push them away somehow.
Stop hugging them. If they come toward you with a hug, just give them a high five. Make sure there’s no chance for them to like you further.
If they’re one of your best friends, I guess the best thing you could do is be completely honest with them. Do not be a jerk about it, just tell them why you don’t like them. You really don’t want ruin the friendship because that can happen sometimes.
When someone tells you that they like you, and after you friendzone them, there could be a little separation in the friendship. Sometimes they don’t want to talk to you because they’re hurt. Be prepared to talk to them less.
A lot of people get into relationships prematurely. We’re taught at a young age that it’s okay to get in and out of relationships. We’re taught that if that person is not good enough for us, we got to get out of that relationship. Sometimes you shouldn’t get into a relationships too fast because some people aren’t ready for it. If you’re still hitting up people you used to see, hitting up your ex, hitting up anyone for that matter then you probably shouldn’t be getting into a relationship.
The problem these days is that there are some people that are greedy and want attention from anyone. It doesn’t matter where they get it or who they get it from. If you’re getting into a serious relationship, there should be one person that you’re physically, mentally, and emotionally involved with. The problem is that some people think that it’s okay to do that with other people and that ruins relationships. If you still want someone else, if you’re still crushing on someone else, if you think that there’s someone else better for you, then you probably shouldn’t get into a relationship. You don’t want to get into a relationship just to get out of it.
Get to know a person before you get into a relationships because if you don’t, and all of a sudden they change their minds in the middle of the relationship, that’ll fuck things up. That’s why you shouldn’t have gotten into a relationship to begin with. Sometimes people get into relationships for the wrong reasons. It’s okay to be attractive but if you’re basing your relationship solely on physical attraction, then you’re doing it wrong. Take your time, get to know them before jumping into relationships. It’s stupid to get into relationships just to break up. Make sure you know that person before you get involved with them.
It’s just so annoying to me that people are getting in and out of relationships these days just because they don’t know what they want. If you’re with someone and you want to make it last, treat them well. Treat them how you want to be treated. The effort you had in the beginning of the relationship shouldn’t change. Just because you have them doesn’t mean you won’t lose them.
Don’t get into relationships if you’re not ready for that shit. If you want to be single, be single, don’t be playing with other people’s heads. And most importantly, don’t cheat. Cheating is terrible. You’re going to fuck up that person for the rest of their lives. If they were really into you and you cheated on them, you’re hurting their trust. And they’ll have the biggest struggle to find trust for someone ever again.
She acts different around her friends and in public. For example, if you’re with a bunch of people and she’s not as sweet to you as she was when you guys were alone. When you’re in public, you’re just a friend to her. That is one big sign. She doesn’t want to make it public because she has others that she needs to take care of. And she probably does the same thing to them too. If she doesn’t show you off, then she might just be playing you.
She never calls you by your name. Why? She wants to get this connection – some nickname thing going on. She only calls you one name (babe) because she doesn’t want to confuse you with everyone else she’s playing. Nicknames are universal, if she calls everyone the same nickname, she won’t lose. Especially if she calls you the nickname too soon.
She can never make time for you. There is never a lot of time that she spends with you because she has to make everyone else happy so she has to fit you into their schedule. Or if you make plans and she cancels last minute with a stupid excuse.
If there’s a rumour about her that she’s a player and all your friends are telling you that she’s a player then you should take their advice. You might think this girl all of a sudden changed for you (and that could happen) but that chance is highly unlikely for a player. If she’s a player, and everyone says she’s a player and warns you about it, why would she change for you?
If she’s calling you up to chill at 2AM in the morning. You probably know why you’re that option.
If you tweet at her or post on her Facebook wall and she deletes it, doesn’t acknowledge it, or get a text from her saying what’s up, then you know she’s trying to keep you on the down low.
She only texts you at night or replies 9 hours later probably because she’s with someone else in the day.
She doesn’t want you to touch her phone. If you reach for something near her phone and she freaks out then she is probably hiding something from you.
She tries to respond to texts while turning to the side so you can’t see who she’s texting.
If all her friends are players, then most likely she’s also a player. Not saying that’s always the case but it’s likely.
If you’re important to her then she’ll introduce you to her friends, her family. If she doesn’t want you to meet any of them, then you’re most likely not good enough, and you’re just an option.
If she’s serious with you, she’ll go out of her way to make time to be with you. If you call her or text her, she will answer right away.
(This can be aimed towards how to get a guy as well)
The first thing you want to do is get her attention. If she doesn’t know if you even exist, then everything you do from this point won’t even matter. Dressing well, and looking good doesn’t always get her attention. You have to get over your shyness and say hi, make yourself stand out. If you get her attention once, she’ll be looking out for you.
When they seem like they’re having a good time when you talk to them. First impressions are everything. You may think you’re the most boring person in the world but if you can make her think you’re interesting, you’re on the right track. The best thing you can do in a conversation is to get her to ask you questions. If she’s asking questions, then it shows that she’s trying to get to know you. Don’t tell her everything at once. You got to do this while being flirty at the same time. Make her enjoy her time talking to you. Every time she thinks about you, happiness has to enter her brain.
Don’t be afraid to crack a couple jokes. The best thing at the beginning of flirting is inside joking. You start creating this connection. You’ll have this thing only you guys have in common, this thing that only you guys joke about. The more inside jokes, the closer you’ll get.
You got to make it known that you are available. If she wants you, she could try to get you. But with doing this, you got to make it known that you are available but hard as hell to get with. You got to be desirable. Don’t be too cocky. Confidence is good, but not cocky because that’s kind of a turn off. You got to be okay with yourself.
Fluid conversations are the best. Be comfortable with yourself. Do not be scared when talking to her. Don’t be scared to bump her, touch her arm, etc.
Don’t give it up too soon. Be mysterious. If you want this girl to be serious with you and have a future with you, don’t give it up so soon. If all she wants to do is get in your pants, don’t let her. That’s just going to lower your chance. Play a little bit of hard to get.
Don’t be afraid to act stupid around her. Sometimes the girl just wants to have fun and be funny around you so that they’re more comfortable with you. But doing this, you got to act stupid and make it known that you can be intelligent too. Have some fun and jokes but have serious conversations as well. Have intellectual conversations. Talk about the real shit, don’t be fake about it. Talk about something close to you. Open up. If you open up, then she’ll be open and it’ll bring you guys closer.
Don’t be afraid to try to look good. There’s nothing wrong with putting something nice on and smelling nice for the girl you’re trying to get. First impressions are important. How she sees you in the beginning is very crucial so don’t be afraid to look attractive. Physical attraction is always first, then comes the inner beauty of a person.
And if you can get her friends to like you, then that’s a big plus. And make sure she’s available too, you don’t want to home wreck someone that’s already in a relationship.
As if the past 4 years were only yesterday. From the day I stepped up looking up at that big sign “Welcome to Humber College…” ‘til the day I glanced back at it knowing I am done. Everything seems to pass by so fast. I can’t believe it, it’s still so overwhelming. I remember exactly the first day of my First year, sitting by myself at break not knowing anyone, daydreaming about the day I’ll have to dream back about this day that I’m sitting here dreaming about. Does that sound crazy? Nope. I’m doing it right now. Let’s rewind.
Four years ago, I was not, and definitely, who I was now. I was unkempt, dirty, annoying, and totally unaware of my responsibility as a student. It was too hot to even think about listening to the speakers explain how my next four years were going to be. High expectation from the profs, but mine was set as low as ground zero. Back then, games and TV were my priority, school wasn’t.
Time flew by. Next thing I know it was the end of the second year. Where was I? Still at the same school surrounded by the same people doing the same tedious jobs as usual. Even my poor academic reports reflected my lack of interest in school. Oh well, I was too young. Why should I care, right? Wrong. Everything started catching up to me. My mind grew a little more conscious about school.
I almost failed second year but thank God, I didn’t. It was then that I finally realized where I’m standing in life. I was on the edge of corrupting myself. Third year arrived. I got more and more serious about school, I woke up.
By the end of the year, I changed my life around. Realized, I should really focus more on school than anything else around me. I brought my grades up, and reassured my responsibility as a daughter and a student. My marks went up, I realized who my real friends were and they had more respect for me than ever before. I had myself back, and most important, I was better than my past.
Today, I can’t help but to be proud of who I’ve become. I go around talking to kids who are hitting that same stage I was years ago and encourage them to be better and work harder in life for whatever their future endeavors put them through. That’s why I enjoy spending one-on-one time with people, or a group, and tell my past. It might not sink into some of you, but believe me, it’s so much more when you have to experience it yourself. Ask me to sit down and talk to you and I’ll gladly do.
Love. What does love mean these days? A word? A poem? A relationship? A broken heart? A never ending struggle between two souls? Whatever your interpretation is, the media and the people around us have changed our definition of love, to the point that it just isn’t the same anymore. Why? Because nowadays, we don’t find the answer ourselves. Instead, we let others persuade us, guide us, give us their own perspective on love and from there, we shape it, mold it, and make it to be however others vision it. The idea of love isn’t original anymore, it’s being imitated and duplicated by the minds of millions of people.
How, you might ask? Simple, because we are so bombarded with all these ideas of true love, we can’t even define love by ourselves. Like a maze, we take on so many approaches before we find that path. With people who characterize the word ‘Love’ for us, we steal the idea and base upon it. And if it doesn’t cross paths with how love is set out to be like, we disallow it. You can’t let others characterize love for you, you have to define it yourself. It’s like asking “what do I have to do to become a great beatboxer?” You are already making a big mistake here, asking others to define it for you. Nobody defines you, you define yourself.
So no matter how people define “love”, it will never be as insightful, pure, sincere, and unadulterated as you would vision it yourself to be.
Therefore, I end my argument here, and reiterate myself – vision love yourself.
True love never has a happy ending. That’s because true love doesn’t have an ending. A heart truly in love never loses hope but always believes in the promise of love, no matter how long the time and how far the distance.
killing with kindness is just the way you roll isn't it? hahaha its more entertaining for you than it is for the other person who's trying to do you wrong.
You can kill em with kindness but the point is actually to try and win them over. I believe that if you’re kind to people, they in turn will be kind to others. And you can break that whole cycle of hate.
I don’t have anything against smokers. Smokers are people and I ain’t about the hate life. What I do think, however, is that smoking is a bigggg turn off for me and with everything that it does to your body, why would you choose to pick up the pack? I won’t judge you if you smoke, but don’t expect me to stand near you!
Do you ever feel like there's no hope for you anymore? If so, how do you deal with it?
Sometimes it’s hard to see past everything that’s going on around you, but from what I’ve learned through experience is that things always get better. Life’s hellaaaa hard sometimes but when I’m feeling down, I just remember that if I think positively, things will turn out positive! It’s all in your mindset, you know?
Hey do u think if u weren't famous roya would be with u.? Real honest question. I'm truly not being mean. Cause ur great at what u do. I hope u don't take offence to it.
This is actually roya right now, and i would like to say that the fact that sophia is very well known had nothing to do with me wanting to get close to her and know her better. she’s a great person and i truly enjoy her company and she has been there for me through a really rough patch that i was going through, and i’m so glad to have her in my life.
I really need some help. You've always been an idol to me since I was in high school. I recently told my parents that I had once attempted suicide and that I've been extremely depressed lately and they said that its karma for not doing my chores and being a better son. I really don't know how to recover from this. Can you give me any advice?
Your parents are ridiculous for saying that. So stupid. Hey man, we all go through hard times. I know it seems like I’m happy all the time and that me and my fam always get along but that’s not always the case. There have definitely been times in my life where I felt like I was fucking everything up, and I couldn’t do anything right. You ever try telling your parents how you feel? Sounds lame, but sometimes you just gotta sit down and let them know that it makes you feel like shit when they say those things to you. Even though it gets depressing, your life is barely starting, dude. There is SO much more to do and SO much more life to live. It seems like everything is pointless right now, but things always get better, and after you get passed all the bullshit, you gotta realize how lucky you are to be alive. There are people out there starving, handicapped, sick, dying.. and they’re still enjoying life. So cheer up. You’re going to be fine. :)
When we meet our eyes, I feel the heavy load of life’s burdens lighten. At that moment, you make me feel weak; weak in a good way. My feelings for you grow each and everyday as we become closer, the feelings overload my heart.
I treasure each and every smile you give me, they make me smile too. With so many things that happen in a single day, hearing from you is the only way to make my day feel complete. There are many mysteries to you that I have yet to uncover.
I am thankful to have you in my life and I am truly blessed to be all yours. It’s like heaven’s gift to me was you. Thank you for holding my hand when I’m lost, holding me when I’m cold, and comforting me when I’m feeling down. You know I would do the same for you. I hope that the key I hold is the one that opens your whole entire heart, just for me.
coming from a childhood, being bullied, and then getting big. how do you deal with all the hate in your life ?
Honestly, eventually you just kinda learn that it’s not always that serious. I mean there’s always going to be people who hate. I mean, I realized that anybody who takes their time out of their day just to say something negative has nothing going on for themselves, yenno? So it’s like, you shouldn’t be mad at them or taking it to heart, you should be giving them hugs because that dude’s probably like touched by his uncles or their mom just never gave them hugs lol yenno? Jokes aside, it’s like.. if someone has that much hate in their hearts, then they probably got problems and I’m definitely not going to let their problems interfere with my life.. feel me?
When was the moment you decided to pursue music as a living?
I don’t know. I just knew my heart decided music before my mind did.
Music is like eating to me, and I was totally oblivious to that fact throughout a big portion of my life. I only registered this when I got into beatboxing. Beatboxing is a habit that became a dream that turned into a reality. It really made me realize that anything is possible with an unbreakable drive and positive mindset. Hope that answered your question.
my bf is asian and im white. i hate when ppl stare and are so quick to judge. what do u do when that happens to u?
Trust me, there will always be people who stare, who hate, and who are jealous of these types of couples. I mean, look, there’s a lot of ignorant, stupid ass people out there, in every situation. So you can’t let other people’s ignorance keep you from being happy, yenno what I mean? Forget the haters and the ignorant people, just keep loving ;) They’re just jealous.
Someone who will honor your morals. Someone who will make you smile when you’re at your lowest. Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes. Someone who will respect you, no matter how bad you make them feel. Someone who will stop what they’re doing just to spend time with you. Someone who will be with you no matter what people say about you. Someone who likes you for who you are, not who you were.
Are ones that happen unexpectedly. Ones where you met by accident but stayed on purpose. Ones where you can be true to yourself. Ones where you can be comfortable in. Ones where you can act like lovers and bestfriends at the same time. Ones that have more playful moments than serious arguments. Ones where you know both of you will never intentionally hurt each other. Ones where there’s no judgement of the past being made. Ones that have nothing but trust. Ones that you could see lasting for a long time. Ones where you understand each other. Ones without drama. Ones where everyone looks at and thinks “damn, I wish I had that”. Ones that people look up to. Ones that make you feel happier than you already are. Ones that add positivity and happiness to your life.
If she doesn’t love you then there’s someone who will, give you that feeling better than a happy pill. Forget your worries and hold you tight, making sure that everything is alright. If she doesn’t tell you you’re beautiful; someone would, making that person wish they could. Staring into your eyes talking with a smile, maybe a giggle every once in a while. If she don’t ask you about your day, someone will ask if you’re okay. All it takes is a hug to feel better, if you’re cold they would give up their sweater. If she doesn’t show passion there’s someone who will, making love causing you to never become ill. Cured with a cuddle and a kiss goodnight, making up after a simple fight. If she doesn’t want you, someone will take you, and love you for you and only you. If she doesn’t care, then why should you? Because there’s always someone waiting right here..
Your smile is absolutely amazing, caught me off guard. You probably have numerous people asking you for a good time, but all I ask? Can I get to know you better? ' Cause an amazing personality would match so perfectly with that amazing smile of yours.
So i was just on youtube about ten minutes ago looking for how to beatbox videos and i stumbled upon you. You honestly have inspired me to want to learn how to beatbox 30 times more now. Legit, you are going to be my inspiration until i master the art of the beatbox. And please don't ever stop beatboxing. You are amazing. Imagine how good your going to be in 5 years haha! But seriously, thank you so much.<33 :]
I’m getting headaches from all these problems going around. I’d like to say it doesn’t bother me, but everything seems to find a way to get to me and I just hope it would all disappear. I’m sick of all the things that are bringing me down, I do everything to fix it and lighten my load, but something just brings me down even further. I feel like I’m moving forward but taking two steps back, I feel like I’m on a damn treadmill; running but getting no where.
Don’t me get wrong, I’m not bitter, I’m not depressed; I’m just sick of some things. Like those days where you just want someone to take care of you. I lost 5 pounds from stress! All this stress is getting to me. I just want a break. But every time I try to take one, more problems arise like, “Where are you Sophia? We need you.” I don’t think I can do this alone anymore, I need help.
Hey Sophia. You seem like you know a lot about being in a relationship. I was wondering if you know how to deal with break ups cause honestly I don't know how to deal with mine.
Honestly.. I’m a person that forgives but never forgets. Sure, I’m never, almost likely, ever going to have them permanently erased from my mind. But once you realize how young you are and how long your life is, you’ll eventually grow to learn and accept the mistakes, the lies, the broken heart, and the promises that were made but never kept.
So my advice to you is pull it together and move on. That’s my fair share of wisdom, speaking from experience.
Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.
You’ll actually know. They’ll take the time to talk to you and be with you. They’ll love you truly and unconditionally even with all your flaws. They’ll never give up on you through thick and thin and will fight for you until the very end. When you’re having a really crappy day, they’ll do anything just to make you smile. If someone really loves you, they’ll do all this and more. Cherish them and never take them for granted.
I’m tired of waiting for people that aren’t worth waiting for.
"Never make permanent decisions on temporary feelings"
These weeks have been real hectic, and I’ve been trying to keep them bottled in for so long, I eventually let some heat out. It’s not that I’m making decisions when I’m mad, I’m making decisions I should have made a long time ago. I was just too damn stubborn.
Forget people who figure they can step in your life and try to make everything better just to screw things up in the end. I’m not for playing around, I got too much work for that. You want to be difficult? Well this is what I do with things that make my life difficult for no reason; I forget them. Goodbye, I don’t have time for games.
I’ve learned as much as I can, and frankly, I think I deserve so much better in life right now. I’m going to keep doing what I love, and I’m going to keep making myself better every time I get the opportunity.
I’m a jerk, and that’s who I am. It’s one of my perks, sometimes it’s funny, sometimes it’s hella annoying; deal with it. I’m not putting people down seriously, I just do it to lessen the tense when there is; because I hate awkward moments and drama.
Last, but definitely not least, do not ever judge me for my past. I’ve worked so hard to learn from them, and trust me, it wasn’t easy. Now that I have, do not ever think I’m the same person back then; because I can and will lose every ounce of respect I have left for you.
YOU ARE SO FREAKIN DOPE! I am here stuck 3 AM doin my homework and then I came across you and you blew my mind. HAHA. If I ever need an instrumental I ain't goin need to download one cus i'ma hit you up! Amazing! I am a fan. Lol
Did you just break up? Were you just cut out of someone’s life? Does it hurt? Then keep reading.
I’ve been through “heartbreaks” a few times. I quote heartbreak because that is what you think it is at first. However, it’s really just pain you are having because of change and your emotions trying to convince you that your heart is breaking. If you’ve been talking, seeing, or dating someone almost everyday for the past couple of weeks, months, or even years, and all of a sudden you guys stop. It is definitely going to feel weird, and it is going to hurt. Especially, if you had put a lot of effort in this relationship. Getting over someone is very complex. No one ever said it was easy. There are five common stages of a breakup.
You’re fresh out of a break up and you feel very bipolar. You believe you can get over them, and at the same time you have this part of you hoping they will come back to you. Everyone goes through this after a breakup. You’re not alone. You feel alone, like no one understands you, or no one will ever understand you, but you’re really just going through denial. I am not saying every break up are the same, but most of them go through the same phases. In this stage, you tend to tell yourself you deserve better, but believethis person is one of a kind. You think you can’t find someone better. But trust me, there’s a lot of fish in the sea. There’s always someone out there you will meet one day that will treat you better, that you’ll fall ten times harder for, and treat you the way you’re deserved to be treated. Everyone spends different amounts of time during the denial phase. It really depends on how much heart you put into caring about this person you’re trying to get over.
It’s normal to get angry at your formal partner. It’s also normal to be angry at the whole situation. You’ll probably blame your ex for everything that happened. Then you might end up doing things you’re probably going to regret later on. Try controlling this anger. Go out, exercise, do anything you want to keep your mind off this person. Keep yourself busy. The more you keep thinking about them, the more angrier you will be, so stop.
Here you will be contemplating on whether to talk to your ex-lover again, or you want to try to maintain a friendship. Trust me, this can be disastrous. Been there, done that. Trying to befriend an ex-lover will only keep the pain you have fresh. It slows down the process of getting over someone and you don’t want to do that. You gotta keep reminding yourself what this person did to you, and why you guys broke up. People try to get over relationships by going into another relationship right after a break up. Rebounds don’t work. You will only end up hurting the rebound, and wanting to get back with your ex. You can save yourself by starting to live your life without that one person. Be single. Be happy and single at the same time. Patience is a virtue. Until that day you find that one lucky person that falls in love with you, it’ll just add to your happiness. You’re all beautiful people, with beautiful hearts.
You’re not sick. You’re just really sad. It’s normal. At this point you know the situation is not going to change, you’re not going to have them back. You’re hopes before are now all gone. You want to be alone, you don’t want to hang out, you don’t want to do anything. You’re basically living under a rock. You just have to realize the people around you who are trying to cheer you up are just trying to help you. You might find them irritating because you want space for yourself but this is when you need your support the most. You might turn to alcohol, drugs, food, or an addiction to try to better yourself. That habit can be destructive. Just eat well, sleep well, and exercise.
It might take a long while until you get to this stage, but it is a really great feeling once you have realized that you’re at this final phase. You will realize and piece together what has happened, accept that you guys are completely out of each others lives, and acknowledge the fact that you had learned from it. Past experiences are in the past for a reason. To learn from mistakes, and better yourself for the future. It is the healthiest way to fully accept a break up and mature as an individual. Although the pain might not completely be gone, time heals all wounds.
Trust me, you’re not alone. Just remember that you guys broke up for a reason. You guys had a past together, and you start remembering the good times but forget about the problems you had which caused this breakup. Keep reminding yourself of the problems you guys had and you’ll speed up the process. Don’t try to rationalize thinking that the reason you guys broke up was not good enough. If it wasn’t, then why did you guys break up? Exactly. The thought of even breaking up wouldn’t come to mind between the two of you if the reason wasn’t good enough. Get over them already. Stay away from them. Stop talking about your ex-lover to everyone, stop checking up on them on social networks or through a friend, avoid them in real life, just completely cut them out. Delete every single thing that reminds you of them, block them, delete them, cut them out. Don’t even have second thoughts, just do it. Nike.
I’m happier alone. Not in a sad, loss of hope kind of way, but happy that everything came the way it was; that I have everything I have, even happier for what I don’t have because I’m probably better off without them.
I’m happy that I’m getting closer to who I really am and it feels great. Self discovery is the longest, most eventful thing that will happen to anyone.
You know, even though sometimes you think back and wonder what if things happened differently, what if I’m still with this person? What if I continued to do this and that; I don’t linger in those thoughts anymore. Time is always ticking, and you can’t go back to change things, just gotta move forward.